Ever since wedding planning was placed into the hands of wedding planners or coordinators, the wedding planning experience changed. Now, we have come full circle and most couples incorporate both planned and DIY elements to their wedding day. Here is my breakdown of what you can do, who you can involve to do it, and my own tips for how much makes sense for a DIY wedding day!
Every wedding should have a couple’s own personal stamp on it. This can be your own creation, involve family and friends, or utilize outside vendors entirely. Either way, your wedding day should include touches that make it feel and look like it represents the two of you. How exactly that is accomplished is your decision, but it should always be about YOU!
For most couples this involves elements from DIY wedding decorations to DIY wedding flowers made by yourself or by friends and family. You can even include just a single DIY element and leave the rest up to the professionals. These are some general pros and cons when considering a do-it-yourself wedding:
I always recommend hiring a day-of wedding coordinator for the following reasons:
Here is my breakdown of what you can do, who you can involve to do it, and my own tips for the amount of DIY that works for a single wedding day!
Yes, it is possible to over-DIY your wedding day. The results can be placing unnecessary burdens on yourself or those closest to you for tasks that could have easily been outsourced. Hiring great wedding vendors and allowing the experts to bring your vision to life relieves the stress of your day. A line should always be drawn before too much DIY is attempted and this line primarily depends upon the type of wedding.
For an intimate wedding you can easily use DIY wedding decoration ideas especially if you own the property or if you opt for an elopement with less decor. You have increased control and flexibility for the day when it’s smaller and your own space.
Costs increase for larger weddings so you need to be more selective with your chosen DIY wedding elements. Renting or hiring outside vendors can be less overwhelming, be of a higher and more elegant quality, and often cost the same or even less!
In some cases, freeing family and friends from the responsibility of bringing or doing anything for your wedding day is the greatest gift you can provide. On the other hand, they can be offended if you don’t let them help or participate in some way. Though I would never recommend styling your day according to outside pressures, there are still ways to include loved ones on your big day!
It’s a great way to involve those who want to feel like they are contributing but not let them take over the day. Key to this balance is firmly communicating what is important to you. It is your wedding day, not theirs, and sometimes this reminder is needed.
There are so many ways that loved ones can contribute. They may have just the skills you need to make your day happen! Here are some recommended DIY wedding ideas that don’t have to be an added stressor for your friends and family!
So much meaning is added when all the little details are personally made like designing your own vow books or a skateboard guest book! But, including DIY components in your day should add meaning and relieve stress–not add to it!
I ultimately recommend a mixed DIY wedding with planned elements as the best choice! This allows you to add some personality to your day without being overwhelmed. There are just some roles that professionals always do best–like your wedding photography!