Shelly Pate

3 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Planning Your Elopement

Bride and groom walk along the river holding bouquet

Elopements have changed so much in the past few years, and that’s why I have these three questions to ask yourself BEFORE you start planning your elopement!

It’s heartening to see that so many couples are starting to understand that the most important part about getting married is their commitment to each other and having an elopement that fits them PERFECTLY.

Question #1 What location is most meaningful to you?

Bride and groom kiss on porch of a-frame cabin

With many couples, our initial consultation is only the beginning of their questions regarding their elopement day planning. If they haven’t chosen an elopement location yet, I immediately spring into action because I LOVE planning these intimate elopements!

If traveling and experiencing something new brings you joy as a couple, what better way to celebrate your elopement day than going somewhere y’all have always talked about? It can be somewhere that has been on your bucket list forever, or somewhere completely new to you both. Your elopement location could be international or one state over. It’s up to YOU!

Start your biggest adventure off with an adventure all your own (like this a-frame cabin elopement)! It’s more magical to experience, explore, and witness a new place together. You can literally create your very own adventure story.

  • Is there a place that is significant to you two already?
  • Do you want a brand new experience together?
  • Is it a “feel” of a place that holds meaning for you?
  • Is it your home? Backyard? Favorite brewery?

Question #2 How do you want your day to feel?

Bride and groom sit at picnic bench drinking coffee outside coffee shop

Your day can be whatever you make it: an intentional experience that creates unforgettable memories that I love to capture! The details that people choose for their wedding aesthetic are so interesting to me because there’s always a story. No one chooses things randomly, there’s so much thought put into the day to make it unique and their own.

One particular couple had known all along that New Year’s Day would be the day they chose to become man and wife. Besides all of the significance to the start of a new year, it was also the day that they found their way back to each other a few years ago and rekindled their love.

  • Do you want it to be very structured, or more flexible?
  • Do you want it all in one place, or do you want to go to multiple locations?

Question #3 Who do you want to be there?

Bride and groom drink champagne in the woods

No matter the location or feel that you choose, an elopement is always a heartfelt and meaningful experience. So much of this meaning can come from who you choose to surround yourself with on your elopement day.

The hugs and love from your innermost circle of friends and family can make all the difference in completing your day. They can join you for the ceremony itself, or you can keep the party going at an intimate dinner afterwards or the next day. Again, your day is crafted by YOU, so it can be as you wish. I’m just there to execute some of the magic!  

  • A “just us” magical experience?
  • Closest friends and family?
  • Just one person special each of you?
  • Do you want folks to celebrate with you later?

Starting to plan your elopement?

You really can have your day planned any way you want, and I’m happy to help! If a local Washington, DC or destination elopement sounds like it would be the perfect fit for you, I’d love to help you plan and photograph it! Say Hey Here!

Elopement couple running holding hands on beach

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